You may think it’s an easy question to answer especially when you are at this stage of life. Let’s see, first I need to take a look at my mistakes, my failures, my biggest heartaches, my biggest fears, my wins and losses. Then I could suggest to younger self what to avoid to not have to suffer these painful events again. Nope! It doesn’t work that way.
Let’s assume that I ran into my younger self say – at Starbucks. Even if there was a way to speak to her as myself and to tell my younger self anything it would not be effective. Her journey would never be the same as mine. I could not have dreamed of the opportunities that are available to her now. We live in different times. Meet different people. Have different experiences. The sum of all that would be different lives and I would not want to influence that journey. No two lives, even if seemingly shared, travel the same road.
She has to make her own mistakes and learn from them. Experience her own failures and start over. Suffer every heartache and find greater love because of it. Conquer her own fears and find the courage to rise above them. Face the unthinkable if faced with a serious illness like cancer and, as I did, find the strength to get through it. In other words, live her own life. But I wouldn’t leave her totally without some words of support.
No, I can’t go back in time or even exist in the same time to help her benefit from the challenges that I faced. But if somehow I could I would talk to her like I talk so many women that I befriend and mentor. I would tell her not what to avoid but what to keep in mind as she traveled through life. Be fearless not timid. Be bold not weak. Be respectful not rude. Be honest not deceitful. Be giving not greedy. Be humble not boastful. Be loving not cold. And above all else – be YOU!!